Why We Avoid Difficult Talk: A Psychoanalytic and Relational Perspective
Difficult conversations are an integral part of human relationships. Yet, many of us find ourselves hesitating—even resisting—when faced with the need to address uncomfortable topics. Whether it is confronting a friend about a misunderstanding, telling a partner how they hurt us, or discussing failures with a mentor, these moments evoke a range of emotions that compel us to avoid rather than...
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Tragic Case of Atul Subhash: Why Discrediting Feminism Fails Men and Women Alike
The recent tragic suicide of Atul Subhash, who left behind a harrowing hour-long video blaming his wife and in-laws for his suffering, has sparked heated debates across India. His death has become more than a personal tragedy—it has evolved into a flashpoint for conversations around men’s mental health, familial abuse, and gender-based struggles. Yet, amid calls for justice, another troubling...
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Why You Should Not Always Be a “Good” Child?
In today’s world, where mental health awareness is on the rise, discussions about emotional well-being often overlook the pressures tied to being a “good child.”From childhood, being a “good” child is presented as the highest virtue. Parents, teachers, and society often praise children who are well-behaved, responsible, and emotionally self-sufficient. These children avoid conflict, fulfill...
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Why Do We Always Push Ourselves Beyond Our Limits?
by Abu UmairDecember 7, 2024 Anxiety and Stress, capitalism, childhood, Miscellaneous, Parenting and Families, patriarchy, psychology, society, subversion0 comments
In today’s fast-paced world, the pressure to push ourselves beyond our limits feels almost unavoidable. From work deadlines to personal goals, the expectation to do more, achieve faster, and be better is everywhere. Social media highlights success stories, while corporate culture rewards non-stop productivity. It’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that slowing down means falling behind....
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Why Do We Feel Tired All the Time? A Relational Perspective
In our increasingly fast-paced world, fatigue is a common complaint. But often, chronic tiredness goes deeper than a lack of sleep or a busy schedule—it’s rooted in emotional, relational, and cultural dynamics that silently weigh us down. From a psychoanalytic and relational perspective, fatigue can be seen as the body and mind’s way of signaling an imbalance or a cry for deeper...
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Why Do We Struggle to Set Boundaries? A Relational Perspective
by Abu UmairNovember 30, 2024 Anxiety and Stress, childhood, Miscellaneous, Parenting and Families, psychology, society0 comments
From a relational and psychoanalytic perspective, the difficulty in setting boundaries often stems from deep-seated emotional patterns, unconscious relational dynamics, and early attachment experiences. Boundaries are not just about saying “no” or protecting personal space—they are an essential part of how we define ourselves in relation to others. Understanding the struggles with...
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Why Do We Compare Ourselves to Others? A Relational Perspective
by Abu UmairNovember 26, 2024 Anxiety and Stress, childhood, Miscellaneous, Parenting and Families, psychology, society, subversion, therapy, Uncategorized0 comments
Comparison is an almost universal experience. Whether scrolling through social media, observing colleagues at work, or hearing about a friend’s success, we often measure our lives against others. But why do we do this, even when it leaves us feeling diminished or unworthy? From a relational lens, this behavior is not merely superficial or competitive; it reveals deeper psychological dynamics...
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Why Do We Say ‘Yes’ When We Really Mean ‘No’? A Relational Perspective
Saying “yes” when we really mean “no” is a common human experience. At the surface, it might appear to be simply an issue of people-pleasing or not wanting to disappoint others. However, a deeper exploration through psychoanalysis and relational theory reveals a far more complex psychological dynamic at play. These seemingly harmless or, at times, impulsive concessions are often rooted in...
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Men’s Mental Health and Masculinity in India: A Relational and Cultural Lens
In the evolving discourse on mental health, men’s struggles often remain underexplored, particularly in culturally complex societies like India. This neglect stems from deeply ingrained notions of masculinity that shape men’s inner worlds and their relationships with society. The intersection of masculinity, marginalization, and mental health in India offers profound insights into the...
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Why We Feel So Disconnected in A Connected World?
by Abu UmairNovember 18, 2024 Anxiety and Stress, capitalism, childhood, Parenting and Families, psychology, society0 comments
In today’s hyper-connected world, we have more ways than ever to stay in touch. Social media, messaging apps, video calls, and emails keep us looped into each other’s lives constantly. Yet, an overwhelming number of people report feeling lonely, disconnected, or even alienated from those around them. Why is it that, despite this technological closeness, we often feel so emotionally distant?...
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